Relationships take work and dedication. Falling in love is easy enough,
but maintaining a healthy, committed relationship takes work.
Unfortunately, if you are one of the many who turn around one day and
ask yourself, "Where did the love go?" you aren't alone. Knowing the
signs of a loveless relationship can help you decide what you need to do
You Spend More Time Apart Than Usual -Every couple should spend some time apart. Healthy relationships consist
of two people who are still able to maintain separate identities.
However, if you are choosing to spend time away from your partner just
to avoid him, then that could signal something is up. People in a
loveless relationship will drift apart. They stop doing the things they
used to do and may even dread the thought of attending social functions
Conversation Becomes a Struggle - When two people are in love, they enjoy each others company
and are excited to talk to each other. Couples in a loveless
relationship will find themselves talking less frequently. They may even
argue and bicker, making conversation unpleasant. If you start to argue
often enough, the two of you eventually avoid conversation altogether.
Not being able to talk through your problems, or not wanting to talk
about your problems can be a sign that the love has disappeared in the
You Become Less Giving - In a healthy, loving relationship, each person gives to the
other. For example, you may take him to lunch just out of the blue, or
he may bring you home flowers for no special reason. In a loveless
relationship, each of you begins to think more about yourself and less
about the other person. You may even become selfish, which leads to
bigger problems. When each person is only thinking about himself, there
is no mutual respect for each other. The relationship can break down
very quickly once you become selfish.
You Are Thinking of Calling It Quits - If you are thinking of calling it quits, then it's a good
sign that the love is gone. If it doesn't break your heart to lose the
other person, then it's time to call it quits and move on with your
life. If there are problems that you believe could be addressed, then
feel free to work on them with your partner. However, if you've tried to
work together and have attended counseling sessions and things still
haven't changed for you; then it's time to admit to yourself that maybe
the love is gone.